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6 Tips on 'How to be Charming'

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6 Tips on 'How to be Charming'

Nayan Sharma

CHARISMA, WHO IS IT FOR?

It is essential for everyone, as we all need to know how to be liked. Because, if we aren't liked, we don't get the co-operation of other people and we then will struggle to achieve our goals. Life will be a very difficult and lonely place if we aren't liked.

Charisma is a learnt skill. When we think of someone as being charming, we often think they are born with it. This is one of the great fallacy's of the world. More appropriately,  'charismatic' people just focus on doing a few small things that most others do not successfully do. 

6 tips that need to be executed in order:

1) POSTURE

Shoulders back, chest out. It is vital that you put yourself into your strongest, most confident state of mind in order to properly execute charisma.

2) SMILE

Charming people are warm, caring, confident, funny. They draw people to them. The only way to magnetise people to you is by smiling. When you enter a room or a party, smile. When you make eye contact with anyone, it could be the girl making your sandwich at the cafe, smile. Have a smile for every single human being you come across and you will be sure to find people attracted to you.

3) LOOK THE PERSON IN THE EYES

While engaging in conversation with anyone, always look the person in the eyes and hold your eye contact, even if they move theirs. It reflects strength and confidence. When your posture is correct, you will be in your most confident state of mind, only then will you feel comfortable looking someone in the eye whilst communicating with them. Connection is built through the eyes.

4) ASK QUESTIONS

Stop talking about yourself, the most charismatic people ask questions, they show they are interested in the other person. The truth is simple: all human beings think only about themselves. Everything we do, including our thoughts, are all from our own perspective. There is nothing wrong with this. It is a primitive instinct, as we have to look after ourselves first, before anyone else in order to survive. The safety instructions on an airplane are a reflection of this; we are always told to apply the oxygen mask to ourselves first, then to another person. If we can step away from thinking about ourselves and spend a little bit of time focussing on someone else, it sets us apart from everyone. We stand out. It makes us different. And what a perfect impression to leave on someone, that you actually care to listen to someone else. LISTEN MORE THAN YOU TALK. 

5) PAY ATTENTION WHEN LISTENING

Stay present, don't let your mind drift, listen to what the other person is saying.

It is so easy to drift away when someone is talking to us. Anytime this happens, bring your consciousness back, pay attention, because you need to remember the details. Not paying attention is the quickest way to making yourself look silly in conversation, because if you get found out, it is very hard for the damage to be repaired. It puts people off instantly. Charming people always remember details. So, PAY ATTENTION. 

6) DON'T FORGET DETAILS ABOUT WHAT THE OTHER PERSON SAID

If you did point 5) well, then you won't have an issue remembering. However, if you claim to have a not so good memory, then write it down. All of the great leaders in the world, have an uncanny ability to remember people's names and details about them. Keep a small diary even if you have to. Do whatever it takes. 

 

Actor Hugh Jackman, renowned to be highly approachable, friendly and very much liked by all people. The keys to his charisma: He is always smiling and does not indulge in talking about himself.

Actor Hugh Jackman, renowned to be highly approachable, friendly and very much liked by all people. The keys to his charisma: He is always smiling and does not indulge in talking about himself.

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